Embracing Our Differences – Rethinking the Myth of When “Two-Become- One”

When starting couples marriage counselling with a new couple, one of the things I raise is the widely held belief that when we commit to living as a couple, “two-become-one”
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Helping Couples Separate with Dignity and Grace

Sometimes there is no “happily ever after” for the couples we work with. By the time they make it to our office, the “water under the bridge” is no longer flowing,
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Do you believe in coincidences?

These are hard times for many of us. And the worst part is – it’s been going on far too long, and we don’t know when it will be over. It’s
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Improve Your Mental Health During this Coronavirus Pandemic

I have been thinking of you a lot as we all navigate our way through an unbelievably bizarre time. I’ve heard from some of you that there are lots of
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Day 12: Cultivate Peace Within & Live in the Moment

Day 12 of 12 Days of Emotional Sobriety There is no better time than the holidays to cultivate a feeling of peace within. Most people these days are increasingly busy making
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Day 11: Be of Service to Others

Day 11 of 12 Days of Emotional Sobriety The third pillar of recovery, after personal recovery and unity with the fellowship, are acts of service. This takes us out beyond our own
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Day 10: Give Others the Benefit of the Doubt

Day 10 of 12 Days of Emotional Sobriety Sometimes people’s intentions are malicious – but most of the time they are not. Most people do not set out to intentionally hurt
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Day 9: Practice Gratitude

Day 9 of 12 Days of Emotional Sobriety One of the most powerful tools in your recovery toolkit is gratitude. It’s impossible to feel sorry for ourselves when we are being
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Day 8: Be Realistic

Day 8 of 12 Days of Emotional Sobriety Many addicts suffer from ‘fantasy functioning’. We come by it honestly, if we have grown up with a lack of healthy, positive role models
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Day 7: Don’t Be a Doormat – But Don’t Pick Fights Either

Day 7 of 12 Days of Emotional Sobriety Many addicts have extreme and contradictory emotions.  Passivity in relationships means you allow yourself to be walked on and later feel used by
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Day 6: Connect with Your Support Network

Day 6 of 12 Days of Emotional Sobriety Addiction is a disease of isolation. I can’t stress that fact enough. A lack of emotional sobriety is often caused from a lack
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Day 5: Strengthen Boundaries

Day 5 of 12 Days of Emotional Sobriety Having strong emotional boundaries means knowing yourself - where you stop and others start. So many addicts get caught up in ‘emotional contagion’
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