Are You Striving To Be Your Best Self?




Years ago, I attended a talk by Dr. Wayne Dyer. I’m certain that many of you have heard of him or  even read one of his many books. One that I loved was titled: “Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life: Living the Wisdom of the Tao.” Sadly, Wayne passed away last year, but his rich legacy lives on for many people.

Dr. Dyer’s main message is a familiar one to many of us. It is simply that we are spiritual beings first  – having a human experience, and not human beings first – who are trying to have a spiritual experience. That may sound like semantics at first glance, but it is much deeper than just a rearrangement of words. Wayne talked about the negative impact of early internalized thoughts, which interfere with our knowing this essential truth about ourselves.

I know that much of my life was fuelled on harmful messages acquired in a family environment that was defined by negativity. Negative messages can come in the form of direct statements, but also and more often, as subtle unspoken rules that you must abide by. Some examples of these messages might include, “You’re not good enough.” “No one likes you.” “Who do you think you are?”  or “You’ll never change.” These undermining unconscious messages often come from well-meaning parents and teachers, who are simply passing on what they learned. Unfortunately, if we don’t recognize their toxicity, and work on changing how we think and feel about ourselves and the world, it will keep us from fully realizing all that we truly are.

What I find hopeful is that many more people today are waking up to the fact that we can be the authors of a new generation of beliefs. Our responsibility is to reduce the toxicity that results from believing and perpetuating ideas that destroy happiness. We can make a conscious effort to turn our negative self talk into caring and loving messages. As we decide to live with a more positive orientation, the Flow of Universal Intelligence can more directly guide our lives.

This does not mean suppressing our truth as denial is not conducive to healing. We are reframing and recreating our truth about feelings, thoughts, desires & dreams that flow from a new belief about our inherent worthiness and value.  Real spiritual growth comes when we accept & appreciate who we are – not push it away or judge it as “bad” or “wrong”.  We can rather see it all as an expression of the “Divine.”

So, take a moment to reflect on the following:

Do you believe that spirituality is important in your life? If so, how do you nurture that side of yourself? If not, why not?

Do you make a conscious effort each day to recognize your own worth, the strengths you bring to life and the difference you make (or could make if you applied yourself)?

Do you think that being ‘spiritual’ means life should be ‘easy’ rather than full of problems and challenges that push you to rise up and become more of your ideal self? Do you think that anger can be spiritual?

Please leave a comment and let us know what you think.

And, if you or someone you know or love is struggling with acute negativity – like addiction, trauma or relationship problems don’t hesitate to contact us.  We are here for you.

Wishing you all the best,


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2 thoughts on “Are You Striving To Be Your Best Self?

  1. Sue, I believe you get to the essence of the matter. I'm sensing that a key purpose of our human being is to receive and savor the gifts from that vast spititual sources from which we come: What could be more beautiful , important, and urgent? Especially in these times!